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What is love?

Posted: February 22, 2013 in Uncategorized

Love means anything from a strong friendship to paternal affections to sexual attractions or desires for someone. No matter how its defined, love comes and goes and with it sways our emotions. Like the tides of the water, our affection towards someone comes and goes. I thought “love” died off when I was treated the hurtful way I was, but everyday, like a haunting ghost, she floats in and out of my thoughts. I honestly thought I was over her, but even with all the denial, its clear I’m not. Maybe this affection will die off for a little bit or even forever, who knows. With my luck, forever & always will hold true like the promise we made to each other. No human will ever know, only God. While I envy him, I do not hate him. I have faith he’ll treat her right. If she’s happier with him, who am I to say who she should be with? As much as we’d hope, we both knew we wouldn’t end up together. I believed though that it was worth ignoring the inevitable and mask my heart with a lie. While the affections were real, the logistical outcome was not in my favor. So all I can hope for now is for her to be happy with him or whoever makes her happy. I can never forget her, afterall she’ll forever have a part of my heart, but I’ll always be here for her should she need a faithful friend. Afterall, I’m here Daily. What is love but time’s fool? No relationship works the way fairytales portray them to be. There isn’t a perfect Prince Charming coming to save the damsel in distress from a coma, evil stepmother, or dangerous dragon. This is where girls are let down. The sooner a girl realizes this, the less disappointing it will seem. We all depend on time to measure our periods of happiness and sadness. As humans its impossible for us to know how long either one lasts. As teenagers, its even more impossible to figure out how often these periods of emotions will come in a certain time period. There are so many. “If not me, who? And if not now, when?” – Gorbachev

There’s so much talk nowadays about having certain freedoms or taking certain ones away to feel more secure. Whether it be freedom from religion or freedom for same-sex couples to get married. No matter which way you approach this, its controversial and going to make someone mad. People have their opinions, I have mine.

When it comes to religion, I respect anyone who chooses to believe in a denomination of Christianity, Islam, Judaism, or none at all. Nobody has the right to restrict someone else from expressing their beliefs because we would only be hypocritical by expressing our own. Just because I respect someone’s right of religion (or lack thereof), I am completely against people who force their views on others. Whether it is taking God and anything religious out of the school and government or forcing a religion onto someone who they clearly do not welcome. I am unashamed to say that I am a Southern Baptist Christian and therefore, believe in God and that Jesus is my Savior. When it comes to certain stereotypes of being a Baptist or Christian, I can only question why we call ourselves Christians when those things clearly contradict what we believe. If we are to believe that we are accepting of everyone, then why protest at soldiers’ funerals or bully kids for the color of their skin, how they look, talk, act, or even their sexuality? I believe that everyone is entitled to what they believe and are free to pursue whatever makes them happy. We shouldn’t judge people for what they believe, as a Christian, I believe that we should pray for them. God will decide what happens to their souls as equally as He will with ours.

My biggest problem with society is how people are saying that America was not founded on religion. IT WAS!!!! Thomas Jefferson believed in God (even if it was only the Old Testament  hints the Jefferson Bible), the 2nd Continental Congress believed in God, and before them, the first settlers believed in God. You cannot deny religion played a large role in the creation of the country. This land was settled on freedom to choose of religion, free to interpret religion as one sees fit. Yes, there is the freedom not to believe in a religion, but that does not mean that religion is not part of America. None of us are perfect and we will judge, protest, and try to tear each side down so our own views will prevail. We are merely humans and our faults are great, but this doesn’t mean there is not commonalities. We are human, take away personalities, the only difference is sex. We are all equal in how we are created and how we will die. We all have the right to pursue happiness, for we all are Americans.

Lastly, and this has little relation, but just because someone was born with a gene mutation that leaves them mentally, socially, or physically handicap, doesn’t make them ANY different from the rest of us. We are all the same in the eyes of God.

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

I heard once that love was only for those who were lucky, good looking, rich, or popular. I disagree, love is for those who want to feel included, important to someone, special, wanted. I have had my share of luck and then misfortunes when it comes to love. Every time I have gotten close to someone, I do something to push them away or hate me. I become someone I’m not because I’m afraid that I’ll get hurt again. Really, I end up hurting someone due to my paranoia.

Anyways, enough about my depressing pitying. Everyone sees the top football (or any sport for that matter) and cheerleaders dating, while the others are in the shadows kicking the can of love looking for that chance where things finally won’t be awkward and they can finally be happy. I’m not saying that the more popular people should be denied happiness and love, I just feel that we shouldn’t sugarcoat the difficulty and instead of only celebrating those in love this Valentine’s Day, but those who haven’t found someone too. 

So here’s to the single ones (pretending to toast) in hopes that all of us can be the lucky ones.